Saying to somebody "I got you" is such a powerful thing.....having them feel it even more so.....and I feel like we need to do it more with the people in our lives.....like my dishwasher reference and feeling the judgement of how I packed it.....and how if he had come and said let me help you.....look I got you......different feeling right?? It is work to back up from ourselves....our own inclinations......our own agendas.....our own moods.....underlying narrative running......all of it.....and taking a step back, and often closing our mouths;-) can change the game......Having somebody say to me "I got you Jenn" and showing up that way in my life every day, and meaning it, sounds like heaven:) Because despite my own relationship flaws.....that is the way I love.....in the "I got you" space......and to feel it back would feel like bliss! And really it is not limited to our significant others......we can extend that kinda vibe to our friends, our children, and our family......a willingness to show up for them.....no matter what.......offering them a feeling of being seen and heard......and held in whatever space they are.....I have been blessed with family like that, and some amazing friends.......friends that are always there......one of my friends recently was going to cancel plans with her hubby when I invited her last minute on one of my adventures, if I had nobody to go with......of course I did not take her up on it.....but that is a "I got you" vibe.......and I know that to be true about her every single time.......ride or die........and I have talked many times of the power that is found in turning that kind of energy around and telling yourself "I GOT YOU".......I won't betray you.....I won't do stuff that self sabotages.......I will show up every day for you......I will love you and be kind to you.....I will speak kindly to you.......that feels just as powerful as an external "I got you".......So I guess this came to me in thinking of the dishwasher thing.....and how a simple shift in a relationship can bring such amazing results.....instead of judgement lecture kinda vibes.....it could be help and support.....like "hey I see you are struggling"....."let me seek to make this easier for you".....not berate you for your struggle......game changer right?? Tension and bickering obliterated....and smiles and love in its place:) And I realize I am sort of in the theory phase of having a relationship:) not having had the chance....yet.....to apply these principles that come to me.....but I suspect much of it will work once I do:) I have certainly had my fair share of time to think on all of it and reflect on my own actions, and the actions of another.....and that is valuable space......necessary space even.....and all this distance....of 2.5 years.....needed to exist......because actually the further out I get the clarity becomes sharper....and more awareness comes, and now I know.....the places I seek to go, and the places I never want to visit again! Happy Friday!
jperuso
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