I decided to write about this too today....I did my video about it yesterday....and I feel like it is so so important.....and often a forgotten piece of it all......and so many times we step into stories that are not our own.....and show up in them, and they do not resonate at all.....there is no question, and I have expressed it many times in my new life, that I feel more like ME than I have ever felt.....and my story resonates and touches people....and I think it was the underdog nature of it, and the comeback.....seeing all that happened to me, and seeing all that happened on the other side.....but the way I found myself there was because I realized I was holding the pen:) It was MY story to tell, and create, and I had the power to make it any story I wished on the other side and in the aftermath..... And that has been the single most powerful thing I have done.....realizing that I had the power to write how my story was going to be....not only crafting it, but also living it.....finding a life that feels like me.....because in the end of my marriage I was living his story......turning myself into a pretzel to be in that story.....believing what he was telling me about me.....about us.....about our life......and none of it felt true, or like me at all....but sometimes I showed. up as the woman he told me I was......because I believed it.....and that is the power the people in our lives can have.....if we let them.....the power to tell us who we are.....and then we end up living lives that are not our own.....anybody that goes through anything has the power to craft their story in the aftermath, I believe that.....and here is the thing....nobody else has to believe in your story.....it only requires you to fiercely believe......it was a gift to my life that I had so many people cheering me on, and supporting my new story, and the person I wanted to become.......recognizing what I was trying to do....but ultimately I had to believe it.....and I did......with all my heart......I believed I was the victor not the victim.....I believed that I had to be a warrior, and fancied myself one throughout, and then did everything I could to show up as her.....to stand in my truth, even if it was uncomfortable or misunderstood.....and take my power back after being left by him, and to fall in love with myself and my life again......and as I sit here today, I do not feel like the underdog in this story at all....or the one that was left behind......or any of it.....and it is simply because I chose not to believe that version of this story....not even pay it in any mind in fact.....and I guess I write this today to remind anyone reading about the stories they are living in, and asking the question, does yours feel like YOU? Is it a story that resonates with your soul? Are you in the aftermath of something tragic or challenging? Grabbing a hold of that pen is the way.......and DECIDING.....what story you want to live moving forward and then writing it in your heart, mind, and soul:)It isn't easy and I say none of this to simplify it all and make it seem easy, but it is possible.....one word, one action, one intention at a time:) I am cheering for you! Go grab it:) Happy Sunday:):)
jperuso
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