The tether of trauma ........

I have written many times about the experience I have had in the aftermath of my divorce, initially being in agony.....and then soon discovering the freedom, and gratitude at it being over.....despite having wanted it to work for so long......not realizing that I should have walked away sooner.....and living in no regrets for not having done that, not knowing better, until I did......but dysfunctional patterns we acquire in our lifetimes, keep us stuck.......no question and they are like a tether of trauma.....of keeping us stuck fast sometimes.....and often believing something that just isn't true......and I STILL fight those things.....even though I know so much better now.....not really ever knowing what healthy love felt like inside of a relationship.......my trying to offer that up and not having it be returned ever......and that has been hard to carry along the way.....the funhouse that goes with that.....but looking toward the freedom has allowed me to feel free.....free to do what is best for myself and my children, and not looking back.....seeking to heal myself as much as I am able along the way.....with the intention of experiencing healthy love......and I am working on it.....but I feel like perhaps as humans we underestimate trauma, and human suffering....we all love the triumphant part....myself included.....the underdog stories are the best:) It has been what has driven me some too.....but there is another piece.....the piece that needs to honor the hurt, and recognize that it is a formidable force.......and I suppose it is like grief.....when it touches us in one moment and we feel like wow......I cannot believe how powerful that is........the heartache or the missing of somebody that has passed.....and all of a sudden it is RIGHT there, in your throat......or in tears filling your eyes.......or in your chest....and it is so hard to believe......the strength of it.......I feel like trauma is similar that way......holding immense power.......even if we don't want it to sometimes......I write about this again today because I am working with some folks that are using that trauma to catapult them into a new life, and I truly believe that is the best way to transmute trauma.....using it as a vehicle to transcend that trauma, and recreate yourself.....and your life.......and that is my passion in coaching.....and I am looking for a few other folks to work with, and work to flip their script! Using the catalyst of their trauma or life altering circumstance....or even a quiet call of their heart, and using it as a vehicle to change.....and have it drive them right into the life they were always meant to have:) That is the experience I am having right now and it is pure magic indeed:) Let's chat! Happy Saturday:)