The other woman........

She took a cheap shot at me the other day.......publicly.......on social media.........her post mocked me......my blog.......my marriage.....my story..........my experience in all of this........ and my pain.......her words were meant to destroy.......or provoke.......or maybe both........however they did neither of those things.......because in the moment of reading it after it was shared with me, and the initial jangly feelings left me.......it came down to me reminding myself of who I am.......and that opinions when given to you, from a place that you don't respect, or a place that doesn't hold any weight in your life........just don't matter........what she thinks of me doesn't mean anything.......I did marvel a bit at the nerve it took to post something like that in lieu of what she has done to myself, and my family, it is indeed kind of hard to believe.....yet.........here we are.......I am fairly certain he doesn't know she posted it.......or maybe he does.......hard to say........either way I don't plan on giving it any more of my attention than this blog......and really just in the spirit of creating understanding and meaning from this experience.......which has been what my blog, and my story has been about all along.......the countless people it touches.......the heartfelt messages I receive privately, and publicly about what it means to a person to hear my story......having it resonate deeply inside of them too.......that is what it is all about......and the immense healing I have found in writing this blog each and every day......such a profound and beautiful experience to own and speak your truth.......so in the moment I was confronted with her words......all it did was remind me of my experience and who I want to be in this world, in this story.......and require me to soul search further......dig a little deeper to hang onto the woman I want to be......and she is not a woman that gets swept up in somebody else's firestorm......somebody else's chaos........but a woman that stands confidently in her peace.......in her life......owning her truth.......and being confident in that every step of the way........unfortunately these things are a part of my journey.......for now.....and my power in all of it.......is to not give that power away by giving it any more attention than is necessary......because it is not what I am about........not who I am.......and it isn't always easy.....but it gets easier.......as I practice.......practice the rising above.....practice the belief in myself.......practice the high road........practice finding my higher self......practice not sinking into my lower self......and it is much easier these days to do that.......and I am proud I have done that nearly every time.......the post about me was meant to hurt me, no question about it.......but instead as these things seem to be.....it strengthened me.......my resolve to own and claim the woman I am becoming on the other side of this......not doubting her for one moment.......just believing in her wholeheartedly......we all have the power to let something that doesn't matter get in.......to wash over us.....diminish who we are.......or not.........and I am choosing or not.......every single time........