Let them, then let ME:)......

I am reading the book "Let Them" at the moment by Mel Robbins....a wonderful person bought it for me and shared it.....and it has been on my radar for awhile.....I am not that far in yet.....I just started it.....but it is such a simple concept really.....but so powerful.....and I feel like I am ahead of the game some in that mindset due to my experience after my divorce....and needing to detach from so much of that, and the treatment of me by my ex, and adopting that mantra.....and letting "them" do whatever they needed to do, and turning my focus nearly completely on myself....and it has been THE thing that has propelled me to here........given me THIS life.....if I had gotten caught in all of their stuff it would have destroyed me......I truly believe that.......I have needed to let go and remove their influence completely......and on a regular basis I do my best to not get ensnared in other people's stuff......staying in my lane.....feeding my goals and dreams....and we spend so much of our life trying to control others, or what they do early on in life.....wishing we could impart change, or get them to understand, or have them do what we want so that we can feel more comfortable.....or safe.....or secure.....and that is all foolish.....the only person we can control, fully........is ourselves,....and the theory of Let Them frees us from driving ourselves crazy.....and I can attest to the power that lives in those two words.....because I have adopted it....not letting my feathers stay ruffled, or get too ruffled by the things others do.....telling myself to just let them.....but there was another piece of her theory which I hadn't thought of until I started reading it.....and beyond the Let Them part.....she talks about there being a let ME part......Let ME decide what I am going to do about what they are doing.....or not doing.....let me decide if I want to deal with those things??? It is in the response that our power lies.....it is one thing to just say Let them....that sort of puts the power in the other person a little bit.....even though it is a way to just not attach to so much emotional stuff that weighs us down....but it is really in the let me part where things change.....let me not be brought under, or deeply destroyed by what somebody does or doesn't do......or become too attached to it at all....so much of our unhappiness is on us.....putting our happiness in the pockets of others......feeling like if somebody did this......we would be happy, or if they didn't do this then we would be......and that is a lie.....and not worth spending energy on....just let them, and then let you do what you need to do:) Freedom lies in that! I would highly recommend checking out her book.....it is really good:) Game changing way to live........Happy Monday! :)