Admittedly I don't know much....but have done my fair share of thinking on it and talking to many people......so my FB dating connection I mentioned yesterday and match has begun some lovely conversation.....he responded and we are in the beginning phases of chatting and deciding if the two hour distance is a thing or not.....but there is indeed possibility there....for me it is hard to make connections on dating sites because I look for certain things that are rare......I do look for a relatively clever profile, some effort;-) and good use of language......I mean I kinda like words lol:) and for sure some substance and signs of that.......so lots of time I just window shop! lol:) Without much luck......but every once and awhile I have sparked connection.....and this last one seems like it could be interesting and promising......but more importantly it could result in friendship too.....I am open to whatever manifests from us colliding in a random way! However the deal with mid life dating is not an easy one......wrought with all sorts of things that don't exist when you are setting out in your 20s......you both have children.....you are now settled in your career......distance could be a concern.......time to devote to the relationship is a huge concern.......you come carrying all the lessons learned from your failed relationship.......and desires for your new one.......some realistic and maybe some not so much......and you most definitely come carrying the bags holding whatever ended your marriage in them......and for me it is my children that will be the biggest challenge....I don't plan on having anybody I am dating around my children for a substantial amount of time.....having to know that I am wanting to go the distance before they become part of the story......so it leaves me a finite amount of time to date or carry on a relationship for sure.....and during the time I have them, I do not want to grab babysitters and make them feel my absence.....I am their ride or die and safe spot and I need for them to feel secure......yet try and live my life......you see the rub.....lol:) So as with anything......anything that has come into my experience.....I will trust.....I will think about it all too because....because........well I can't help myself......but I won't overthink it........just keep my boundaries and my desires in mind......and do the best I can to navigate this brave new world I now live in......with mid life dating being one of the activities of the day;-)
jperuso
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