One of the things at Madeline's school that I think is so effective, is that they are encouraged to hold each other accountable.....express to one another when somebody is not honoring their rules of engagement, or contract of promises......reminding them to step up some, to get back in line and honor them. And it isn't in a tattling way or chastising way.....it is in a way that holds those things in a position of deep importance, and seeks to have them continue to have fidelity in their existence......and I have written a lot about my finally learning to love myself.....to decide to take care of me....to decide to claim a position in my own life.....in all of those things I have found such power in that shift.....but more than that I have learned to hold myself accountable.....and it occurred to me while I was talking to a friend yesterday......that that is something I am doing and seeking to do more of in my new life, and often do we make excuses for our actions or other parts of our lives?? A lot right.....and excuses keep us so stuck.....the minute one flies out of your mouth, you have put yourself behind where you want to be, just in the expression of why you aren't where you need to be.....but when you start pulling those excuses away, and holding yourself more accountable things change.....I hold myself accountable for my workout every day....not giving myself a pass for excuses or circumstance that would have once gotten in my way.....in all of my daily habits actually......and I am holding myself accountable for growing and healing....for intentionally changing, and working on things about me that no longer serve me or deserve a place in my new life.....being honest about where I am falling short or where I need to extend grace to myself and grow.......and for my actions.....sometimes we can excuse ourself something that is diminishing us, and we think we are doing it for good reasons.....but when we look at it, really look at it, and realize the impact it is having, we need to be brave enough to lay it down and honor ourselves.....I truly try to do that and more in my day to day.....seeking to hold myself accountable in my own contract of promises I made to me in my new life....when everything came crashing down and I was sitting in the rubble, I had a very unique and special opportunity to rebuild....with intention this time......no longer let my life take on that autopilot vibe.....but living for real, and with intention.....so that includes quality control......standing watch over that life, and my own actions, and making sure I am upholding the promises I made to myself when I was sitting in the wreckage......and I am working to do that... more and more every day.......for myself and my kids.....wanting to offer them up a better life, and healthier and happier life on the other side of what has found us......not a life they have to heal from.......anymore than they have already faced.....and holding myself accountable helps! What are you holding yourself accountable for today??? It is a good question to ask from time to time;-) Have a good day!
jperuso
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