If you have been reading all I have written you can clearly see how destructive being unfaithful is to another person and to their children.....but if it hasn't quite resonated with you yet, and you have or are considering such a path......... let me say in no uncertain terms DON'T CHEAT on your spouse.......just don't........the pain and destruction it brings is not worth the temporary satisfaction it brings......I can promise you that.....and the implications are ENDLESS.....truly.....If you are in your marriage and you feel you would be happier elsewhere......that the "grass is greener" somehow....pursue that.....you do you..........but do it in the most kind and honest way you can.....be brave enough to leave before you have violated your vows, be brave enough to not give into yourself, before you choose to hurt the person that has loved you above all else....your "thick or thin" person......also make sure that the "fantasy" you have created can hold up in the "reality" that you will now have to live in.......without your children daily....without your soft place to land....without the respect of the people you have had in your life..............affairs are often not rooted in reality, and definitely not honesty, so they grow in dark places and don't survive in the LIGHT of day........so if you feel with your heart you have found "the one" outside of your marriage RESPECT your spouse enough to just go........not have your cake and eat it too......because when you do something like that to another human you are responsible for CHANGING them FOREVER.........you have to own that change you made in another's soul for the remaining days of your life.......make sure you are willing to do that, that it is what you HAVE to do........because likely the grass is NOT greener.........the payoff WON'T remain......and the short term gratification will be short lived.........and it will all be at the expense of the people that have loved you the most in all of your life besides your parents......and even if it does somehow survive, your soul will also be forever changed in ways you may not be able to live with either......So my PSA is just don't do it........appreciate all you have at home and the person you have chosen to do life with......or if you must, try and keep as much integrity if you can.......at the end of the day we only carry how we treat others in our lives and what impact we make in this world, the legacy we leave behind matters......what do you want yours to be? We only get one shot here on this earth and in this life......... make it count............
jperuso
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